Netchurch – I Hate Divorce: How hard is Divorce today versus those days Strange Things Happened in Europe

God hates divorce .,..”¹⁷ According to Oni, “No matter what view one takes on the issue of divorce, it is important to remember Malachi 2:16: ‘I hate divorce, says the LORD God of Israel.

I Hate Divorce: Embracing God’s Design for Marriage”

NETCHURCH

Dear brothers and sisters in Christ,

Today, I want us to reflect on a topic that is close to the heart of God: marriage and divorce. In the book of Malachi, chapter 2, verse 16, the Lord declares, “I hate divorce.” These words echo God’s deep concern for the sacred institution of marriage that He established from the beginning of creation.

Marriage is not just a social contract or a legal arrangement; it is a divine covenant ordained by God Himself. In Ephesians 5:31-32, the apostle Paul refers to marriage as a profound mystery that reflects the relationship between Christ and His church. It is a union intended to reflect the selfless love, commitment, and unity that Christ has for His people.

However, in our world today, divorce has become all too common. Many marriages face immense challenges – from communication breakdowns to infidelity, financial strains to irreconcilable differences. These challenges can test the foundation of any relationship. Yet, amidst these difficulties, God calls us to honor and uphold the sanctity of marriage.

Why does God hate divorce? It is because divorce goes against His original plan for marriage. In Matthew 19:6, Jesus reaffirms, “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Divorce tears apart what God has united, causing pain not only to the couple involved but also to their families and communities.

As followers of Christ, we are called to reflect His love and grace in our relationships, especially within our marriages. We are called to love one another as Christ loved the church – sacrificially, unconditionally, and with forgiveness. When we face difficulties in our marriages, we are called to seek reconciliation and restoration, guided by the wisdom and strength that God provides.

Let us also remember that God is a God of second chances. While divorce is a reality in our fallen world, God offers healing and redemption to those who seek His guidance. He can heal broken hearts, restore broken relationships, and bring hope where there was once despair.

For those who have experienced the pain of divorce, know that God’s love and mercy are always available to you. He understands your hurt and wants to bring healing to your life. Seek His presence, His comfort, and His guidance as you navigate this journey.

As a church community, let us commit to supporting and upholding the institution of marriage. Let us pray for strength and wisdom for married couples facing challenges. Let us provide love and support to those who are struggling in their marriages. And let us always remember to seek God’s will and His Word as the foundation of our marriages and relationships.

In conclusion, let us hold fast to God’s commandment: “I hate divorce.” Let us honor marriage as a sacred covenant and strive to live out His design for love, unity, and lifelong commitment. May God bless each one of us as we seek to glorify Him in our marriages and in all aspects of our lives.

Amen.

It was extremely hard to get a divorce in medieval Europe, so couples who had enough of each other sometimes opted to end the marriage with a divorce duel.

German combat instructor and court adviser Hans Talhofer wrote Fechtbuch (“Fencing Book”) in 1467, an illustrated tome that included techniques for couples engaged in such duels. Since men have obvious physical advantages, things had to get evened out.

Hubbies, armed with three clubs, had to fight from inside a waist-high hole about three feet wide, with one hand tied to their body. Wives were armed with three rocks that weighed up to eight pounds, tied in a cloth like a battery in a sock, and could move around the hole freely.

Both sides’ weapons had to be of equal length. A husband who touched the hole’s edge forfeited a club. If he did so three times, he had to continue unarmed. If that happened, he would presumably have to try and wrestle his wife into the hole before she bashed his head in.

Talhofer’s manual offered advice about appropriate clothes, best techniques for each gender, and step-by-step instructions to exploit the opponent’s vulnerabilities. The duels were surprisingly fair, and numerous women emerged victorious. Although divorce duels were not to the death, death was the ultimate result. If the wife won, her husband was executed, and if the husband won, the wife was buried alive.

Divorce today and in the past can vary significantly depending on several factors including social attitudes, legal frameworks, and individual circumstances. Here are some key points to consider when comparing divorce today versus in the past:

Social Attitudes: In the past, divorce was often stigmatized and considered taboo in many societies. This stigma could make the process more emotionally challenging for individuals seeking to end their marriages. Today, while attitudes have generally become more accepting of divorce, there can still be social and familial pressures that individuals may face.
Legal Frameworks: The legal processes and requirements for divorce have evolved over time. In many places, divorce laws have become more accessible, allowing couples to dissolve their marriages more easily. However, legal complexities can still arise, especially in cases involving children, property division, and spousal support.
Emotional Impact: Divorce can be emotionally difficult regardless of the era. Today, there is more awareness and support for mental health during divorce, including counseling services and support groups. In the past, lack of emotional support and resources could make divorce even more challenging for individuals.
Financial Implications: Financial considerations have always been a significant aspect of divorce. Today, the financial implications can still be substantial, but there may be more resources available for financial planning and legal advice.
Gender Dynamics: Historically, divorce laws and societal norms often disadvantaged women more than men. Today, while gender inequalities persist in some contexts, legal reforms and changing societal norms have aimed to address these disparities.
Children: The impact of divorce on children has been a concern throughout history. Today, there is more understanding of how divorce can affect children, and efforts are often made to prioritize their well-being through custody arrangements and support services.